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Boost your self-esteem after divorce

Posted on November 21, 2011

I took my son swimming today and had to pop into the shop for some milk on the way home. I didn’t exactly look my best, wearing no make-up and wet hair pulled back into a ponytail.

It reminded me of just how important it is to feel good about how you look and the impact that this has on your confidence, your outlook on life and self-esteem.

Wearing a top which is a bit tight and makes you feel self-conscious for example is likely to make you less confident and shy away from attention rather than welcoming it.

Conversely, wearing an outfit which makes you feel fabulous will make you behave in a more confident manner and you’ll welcome bumping into someone you know because you know you look great.

I’m sure we’ve all been there; you’ve dashed out to the shops in old, ill-fitting clothes and your heart has sunk at the sight of someone you know and haven’t seen for ages.

Do you hide behind the tomatoes or front it out?

Well, a life changing event such as divorce or separation can be a great time to reinvent yourself and updating your image can give a real boost to your self esteem.

How you feel about yourself can affect your ability to do the things you want to do in life.

How you look has a significant impact on how you feel about yourself and so it follows that a new look can kick start a catalyst of positive changes in your life.

My advice? Don’t even own clothes which make you look or feel rubbish, that way you won’t be tempted to put them on.

You don’t have to spend a fortune, your clothes don’t have to have a designer label – you just need to spend your money wisely by choosing the right styles and colours of clothes to best suit you.

Review each item in your wardrobe one by one and ask yourself:
• Does the colour suit me?
• Does the style flatter my body shape?
• Does it fit me properly? If not then perhaps it can be altered by a tailor.
• Is it appropriate for my current lifestyle?
• Is it age appropriate?
• Have I worn it in the last 2 years?
• Is it appropriate for the current season? If not then put it in

storage rather than letting it clutter up your wardrobe.

And most importantly….
• Does it make me feel good?

Sometimes clothes can tick all the boxes in theory but if they don’t make you feel great then get rid of them.

It may take a while but the results will be worth it. You’ll have fewer clothes but we only wear 30% of the clothes in our wardrobe anyway -at least you’ll be left with things you enjoy wearing and which look good.

As you go along build up a shopping list of items which need replacing or any key items missing from your wardrobe. This will help you to stay focused on the things you actually need when shopping rather than impulse buying or choosing clothes which are similar to what you already own.

If you have any questions or would like help with your wardrobe then please get in touch.

Alice Treanor

Personal Stylist and Style Coach™
07938 135 585

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2 Responses to “Boost your self-esteem after divorce”

  1. Divorce Blogger on November 21st, 2011 12:56 pm

    It’s also worth noting that clearing out your wardrobe following a divorce is hugely symbolic. It’s a way of reinforcing the fact that you are about to begin a new and exciting life. Buying yourself a new item or two will help too.

  2. Alice Treanor on November 22nd, 2011 1:59 pm

    Thanks for your comment. I totally agree, clearing out your wardrobe is a really positive way to embrace your new life

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